Likes, Followers + Views- Does It All Even Matter?

Likes, Followers + Views- Does It All Even Matter?

Today’s blog post is going to be a bit of a controversial one. Normally, I don’t have many ‘rant’ blog posts.  Instead, you will find a lot of positive and feel good posts. But I feel like I need to discuss this common problem in today’s modern world regarding social media.

Today, I’m going to discuss how social media can make some of us feel.

Yes, I think you might know what I mean.

The feeling of self-doubt when you didn’t get enough likes on your latest Instagram post. The feeling of being lost and confused about your life because it’s not as fun and out there as others peoples lives. The feeling you get when you’re looking in the mirror and you’re staring at a part of your body in a negative way because you saw another person who appeared in your eyes looking ‘better’.

I feel like today, there’s a certain ‘category’ where people think they have to fit in to, in order to be liked or successful.

Or there’s a certain way that they think they need to look like, in order to love themselves more, to feel loved by others.

MY STORY

Lately, I have witnessed people I know and people who I follow who get caught up in numbers. Those numbers being likes, followers, comments, views, subscribers etc.

And even I have been left feeling a bit worthless on a couple of occasions because I thought I didn’t have enough likes or followers compared to others.

I guess I can totally relate to this topic because I am a blogger and I’m constantly exposed to this ‘social media lifestyle’.

Now don’t get me wrong, social media platforms and constant exposure to them is a norm for bloggers. I post to social media more than my friends and I enjoy a good Instagram scroll or a Snachap binge. Social media and the world wide web can be a good thing in some ways more than others.

But I guess I got caught up a little and thought that I needed ‘lots’ of followers and likes, to be considered a successful or great blogger. I participated in blogger ‘follow for follows’, Instagram comment pods and Facebook blogging groups for comments on your blog.

At the end of the day, it left me emotionally drained. And it was feeding my self-esteem issues, rather than help my blogging or social media pages.

I decided to stop doing these things that wasted my time and instead focus on what matters; my content and what my true purpose is- to inspire and share my stories and advice. As well as interact with my loyal followers and amazing people that I have gotten to know from social media.

And this goes for social de-cluttering as well. I unfollowed a lot of pages on all my social platforms that no longer aligned with me, or that I was interested in (or as mentioned above, I was only following to have that extra ‘number’).

HOW TO GET PAST THIS FEELING

Here’s the thing. 20 years later when you look back on your life and the things you’ve done, you’re not going to remember the likes you got, the followers you gained or the things you worried about then.

You’re going to remember the small moments. The memories you made. The people you connected with. The new people who you made friends with.

So why worry about it now?

The truth is, we all have amazing lives that I think some of us forget about because of this altered and unrealistic portrayal of life through social media.

If there’s something I want you to remember from this blog post today- it’s that we’re all different. But we’re all beautiful. Each in our own ways.

Don’t change yourself because of how society wants you to change- change for yourself, be yourself and don’t be afraid of being different.

 

If you think you may be suffering from anxiety and self-esteem issues from social media, perhaps you should take a step back, so you can connect back to reality, and find some more time to explore yourself and what really matters to you. Here are some tips for you:

  • Have a few days or a week break from social media (delete apps from your phone if you need to). Make this a regular thing to declutter 
  • Unfollow anyone you no longer align with on all social platforms
  • Keep your phone away from you so it doesn’t distract you
  • Turn off notifications for all social media apps (the best thing I’ve done recently)
  • If you’re being bullied online, never ignore it- confide in a relative or teacher who can help you with it

What are your views on this topic? Feel free to share in the comments ♥

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  • I’m so happy I’m not the only one who feels this way. Honestly- turning off notifications for all apps, leaving comment pods and facebook groups was the best thing I’ve done- I’ve been able to create some authentic and deep content because I don’t spend my time worrying about all of this. The feelings of self esteem still are with me but I’m still working on this and spending less time on social media- unfollowing people etc. Thanks for reading and your feedback love! xx

  • Diana Maria

    Oh my goodness I am so glad I read this, and that you wrote it Peta! I’ve gotten caught up in all of this lately too, and I’m making it a goal this weekend to leave the comment pods and groups, because it just makes me feel drained and empty. When you get caught up in numbers, I feel like you begin to question everything you’re doing. I’d rather have meaningful interaction, so I’m going to work towards getting that back again. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one feeling this way! xx

    Sending light & love your way,

    My Lovelier Days

  • Thanks Ania for reading and your point of view- I was a bit hesitant in posting this but turns out lots of people feel the same. Hopefully this can help some people especially the young ones growing up in the social media world xx

  • It’s such a current problem that definitely deserves more attention than it’s given today in mainstream media. Thank you so much for writing about it! Whilst I don’t have this problem myself (trust me, my self-esteem issues run so deep, I don’t even want to put myself out there half the time!), but so many of my friends does have this kind of issues. Thank you for the suggestions at the end of the post, now I also know how to help those who struggle with social media anxiety! 🙂 xx